I just got back from breakfast with my friend Scott. I hadn't seen Scott for something like three years, and then we ran into each other at the Captain Smartypants concert two weeks ago. I emailed him and said we should get together. It was really good seeing him, and I enjoyed catching up.

It made me think about how disconnected I feel from the gay community. (Okay, so going to the Captain Smartypants concert is kind of "gay," but that seemed more like an excursion than a routine event. Tonight I'm going to the Mariners game with Nancy and Mike, and tomorrow I'm going to see "Born Yesterday" at ACT with Mary. These seem like more regular activities to me.

One of the reasons I moved to Seattle was to be in a place where there is an active gay community I could be a part of. After I moved here, I joined the Seattle Mens Chorus, but that didn't really make me feel connected to the community. I'm not sure why. At least a few gay friends have come out of that, including Scott, Mark (who brought me to the Captain Smartypants concert), and the Barcelona Boys Investment Club. A few other gay connections have come from playing bridge. But for the most part my gay friends are people I get together with once every so often, not people I hang out with regularly.

Though now that I think about it, all of my friends are people I get together with every so often. I can't say I have a regular circle of friends at all, just a collection of individual friends.

It's funny how things end up being so different from what I expect. Not that different is bad, or good. It's just different.